Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is a test designed to identify a person's personality type, strengths and preferences. The test was developed by Isabel Myers and Katherine Briggs based on their work with Carl Jung's theory of personality types. The genuine MBTI can only be taken through a registered practitioner but several Myers briggs 'style' tests can be taken free online.

See http://www.typefinder.com/test/type-finder-personality-test and http://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test.

MYERS-BRIGGS PERSONALITY TYPE AND BEST FIT RELATIONSHIPS

MBTIHere are some brief descriptions of the 16 types, along with the best fit, possible fit and least likely fit for a relationship based on personality type. Gender is not a critical factor in this method- type is reliable regardless of gender.

ISTJ
  •     Responsible, organizing
  •     Efficient and practical
  •     Take things seriously, expect others to do this also
  •     Traditional and conforming
  •     May not be emotionally available, can hold rigid points of view
  •     Like formal and informal acknowledgements- cards and 'thank you'
  •     Under stress: may withdraw, push too hard to get things done
Best types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, INTJ, ISTP, ESTP
Possible types for a relationship: ENTJ, INTP, ENFJ, INFJ, ISFJ, ISFP, ENTP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ESFP, ENFP, INFP
Percentage of the US population: 12-16%

ISTP
  • Logical, realistic- natural trouble shooters
  • Quiet and analytical observers
  • Can be detached and overly pragmatic
  • Can be uncomfortable dealing with their emotions
  • Occasionally seen spontaneous, playful side
  • Like to be acknowledged for their problem-solving capabilities
  • Under stress: can feel trapped, move impulsively
Best types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, ENTJ, ESTP
Possible types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFP, INTJ, ISFJ
Least likely types for a relationship: ISTP, ESFP, ENTP, INTP, ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Percentage of the US population: 5-7%

ESTP
  • Enthusiastic, hands on, adaptable realists
  • Enjoy real-life experiences, new activities and challenges
  • Happiest when they are in the moment
  • Friendly, talkative and outgoing
  • Can be too eager for the next experience
  • Want to be respected for their need for freedom
  • Under stress: may become excessively impulsive

Best types for a relationship: ISTJ, ESTP, ISTP, ESFP
Possible types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISFP, ENTJ, ENTP, INTP, ISFJ
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, INTJ, ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Percentage of the US population: 5-7%

ESTJ
  • Great talkers with strong opinions
  • Dependable and responsible
  • Find comfort in family routines and traditions
  • Organized and orderly, may try to control their partner
  • Can be inflexible and impatient
  • Want to be acknowledged for keeping things running smoothly
  • Under stress: may become hypercritical and controlling
Best types for a relationship: ISTJ, ESFJ, ISFJ, ENTJ, INTJ, ISTP
Possible types for a relationship: ENTP, INTP, ESTP, ESFP, ISFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTJ, ENFJ, INFJ, INFP, ENFP
Percentage of the US population: 10-12%

ISFJ
  • Strong need to belong and to have harmony
  • Very good with details and the here-and-now
  • Trust the lessons of the past, rather than try new things
  • Amazing command of the facts
  • Do not like confrontation
  • Need to be appreciated for their contributions
  • Under stress: can become rigid
Best types for a relationship: ISFJ, ENFJ, ESTJ
Possible types for a relationship: ESFJ, ESTP, ISFP, INFJ, INFP, ESFP, ISTJ, ISFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ENTJ, INTJ, ENTP, INTP, ENFP
Percentage of the US population: 9-12%

ISFP
  • Gentle, sensitive, compassionate
  • Down to earth, prefer action to words
  • Modest and reserved
  • Can take a long time to get to know
  • Hide their vulnerability behind an air of detachment
  • Want a deep and intimate connection with their partners
  • Under stress: can become passive and withdraw
Best types for a relationship: ESFP, ISFP
Possible types for a relationship: ESTP, ESTJ, ESFJ, ISTP, ENFJ, INFJ, INFP, ISFJ, ISTJ, ENFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ENTJ, INTJ, ENTP, INTP
Percentage of the US population: 5-7%

ESFP
  • Enthusiasm for the world of real-life experiences
  • Energetic and fun-loving, practical
  • Spontaneous and flexible
  • Can be frustrated by rules and regulations
  • Very outgoing, "people people"
  • Special concern for children
  • Can show a lack of commitment or seem impulsive
  • Under stress: may become excessively impulsive, over commit
Best types for a relationship: ESTP, ISFP
Possible types for a relationship: ESTJ, ESFJ, ISFJ, ESFP, ENTP, ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ISTJ, ISTP, ENTJ, INTJ, INTP
Percentage of the US population: 6-9%

ESFJ
  • Care intensely about people; generously support them
  • Desire harmony- this is essential to their well-being
  • Take their work seriously, think that others should also
  • Traditions are important; as are family events and holidays
  • Can be comfortable as leaders
  • Can be seen as intolerant (based on their clear sense of right and wrong)
  • Under stress: can become excessively emotional, see only the negative
Best types for a relationship: ESTJ, ENFP
Possible types for a relationship: ISFJ, ESFJ, ENFJ, INFP, ISFP, ISTP, ESFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTP, ENTJ, INTJ, ENTP, INTP, INFJ, ISTJ
Percentage of the US population: 10-12%

INFJ
  • Deep concern for people and relationships
  • Live for insight and imagination
  • Love of learning
  • Deeply concerned with fellowship and harmony; caring and compassionate
  • Concerned with the growth of others
  • Idealists at heart; value trust in relationships
  • Can be seen as stubborn about their own correctness
  • Under stress: may be surprisingly critical, can become self-absorbed
Best types for a relationship: ENTP, ENFP, INFJ, INFP, ENFJ
Possible types for a relationship: ISFJ, ESFP, ISFP, ENTJ, INTJ, INTP, ISTJ
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTJ, ESFJ, ESTP, ISTP
Percentage of the US population: 2-3%

INFP
  • Skilled communicators
  • Often idealistic
  • Harmony in relationships is important
  • May not be able to get their own needs met
  • Excited by new ideas and possibilities
  • Creativity is important; artistic activities
  • Don't tread on their values- they will bite you
  • Under stress: can become outwardly critical of others
Best types for a relationship: ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, INFJ
Possible types for a relationship: ISFJ, ESFJ, ESFP, ISFP, ENTP, INTP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP, ISTP, ENTJ, INTJ
Percentage of the US population: 4-5%

ENFP
  • Love to talk about what is going on in their lives
  • Will encourage their mates to grow
  • Need to feel encouragement
  • Don't like to say it when their feelings are hurt
  • Tend to withdraw to process hurt feelings in private
  • Need to hear how much they mean to someone
  • Like spontaneous demonstrations of love and respect
  • Under stress: may have difficulty saying no and take on too many projects
Best types for a relationship: INFJ, INFP, ENFJ, ENFP, ESFJ
Possible types for a relationship: ENTJ, ENTP, INTJ, INTP,ESFP, ISFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ISTJ, ESTJ, ISTP, ESTP, ISFJ
Percentage of the US population: 6-8%

ENFJ
  • Strong desire for harmony
  • Love to talk with and learn from others
  • Exceptional people skills
  • Make decisions based on personal values
  • Idealists who need active people contact
  • Exude charm, but can overwhelm others with too much enthusiasm
  • Under stress: can become rigidly narrow, emotional and irritable
Best types for a relationship: ISFJ, ENFJ, ENTJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Possible types for a relationship: ESFJ, ESFP, ISFP, INTP, ISTJ, ENTP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESTJ, ESTP, ISTP, INTJ
Percentage of the US population: 3-5%

INTJ
  • Have assumptions about the way things could be (strong opinions)
  • Need to be around other competent people
  • Avoid interpersonal conflict, but love a spirited debate
  • Can need to feel in control, and be inflexible
  • Can appear to be challenging and insensitive (generally not true underneath)
  • Tend to avoid emotional risks, tend to keep thoughts and insights to themselves
  • They may appear stubborn
  • Under stress: may become over-structured; paralyzed by seeking perfection before taking action
Best types for a relationship: ESTJ, INTJ, ISTP, ENTJ
Possible types for a relationship: INTP, INFJ, INFP, ENFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFJ, ESTP, ESFP, ISFP, ENTP, INFP, ENFJ
Percentage of the US population: 3-4%

INTP
  • Flexible and adaptable
  • Want to make sense of concepts, and the world
  • Logical and analytical- want others to be logical
  • May have great powers of concentration
  • Like abstract and symbolic thinking
  • Often non-traditional
  • May be seen as aloof; out of touch with the world
  • Under stress: may feel overwhelmed and misunderstood

Best types for a relationship: ENTP, INTP, INTJ
Possible types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP, ENTJ, ENFJ, INFJ, ENFP, INFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFJ, ISTP, ESFP, ISFP
Percentage of the US population: 5-6%

ENTP
  • Excited by possibilities, anything new
  • Eternal optimists
  • Value knowledge and competence
  • Gregarious, sociable; look self-confident
  • Tend to view people in an objective manner, so they can appear insensitive
  • May argue for the sake of argument
  • Under stress: may take on too many projects, drive themselves to exhaustion
Best types for a relationship: ENTP, INTP, INFJ
Possible types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTJ, ESTP, ESFP, ENTJ, ENFP, INFP, ENFJ
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFJ, ISTP, ISFP, INTJ
Percentage of the US population: 4-7%

ENTJ
  • Good at analyzing and bringing order
  • Logical
  • Big picture thinkers
  • Energetic planners and builders
  • Value competence and intelligence
  • Hold themselves to high standards
  • Confident and assertive
  • Under stress: may become hypercritical of themselves and others
Best types for a relationship: ESTJ, ISTP, ENTJ, ENFJ, INTJ
Possible types for a relationship: ISTJ, ESTP, ENTP, INTP, INFJ, ENFP
Least likely types for a relationship: ESFJ, ISFJ, ESFP, ISFP, INFP
Percentage of the US population: 3-5%

Sources:

"Looking at Type: The Fundamentals"
Charles Martin, Ph.D.
Center for Applications of Psychological Type, Gainesville, FL 1997

"Just Your Type"
Paul D. Tieger and Barbara Barron-Tieger
Little, Brown and Company, Boston, MA 2000